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What to do about failed resolutions?

Dear Agony Aunt,

I started off the year with plenty of resolutions and honestly, I’ve already failed half of them. I’m finding it difficult to stay focused and the holidays have left me feeling bored and tired of doing the same old thing. Watching movies and playing games is fun and all, but I feel like I could be doing more. What do you think I should do?

– Searching for Meaning


Dear Searching for Meaning,

The holiday season starts off with a lot of festive spirit, but it dies down by the end, doesn’t it? Don’t worry; it’s a universal experience. Sooner or later we all start questioning whether we’re doing what we love or making the best use of our time. The days start to blend into one another and it feels like we’re going through the same repetitive routine.

Like most things, this is a personal journey and it will depend on your interests and way of dealing with obstacles. What I suggest you do is take some time to write things down. If writing is not for you, try some other means of visualising what your priorities are – draw, make a list, use sticky notes. Whatever you choose to do, ensure that you create a list of all the activities or tasks that you’ve been meaning to get around to but have been putting off. It might be a new sport you want to try, a new book, a hobby or a skill. Maybe it’s a friendship you haven’t sparked in a while or a family gathering that needs to be arranged.

Once you have your short-term bucket list sorted, plan out when you want to do those things. While you’re doing that, think about your long-term goals as well and keep it aside for when you feel like going on an adventure or stepping out of your comfort zone. Having it all written or saved somewhere will make it so much easier for you to go ahead and do everything you’ve been planning. It’s this first step that a lot of people find daunting and time-consuming. Once you have a clear to-do list at your disposal, it’ll simply be an act of crossing these things off as you live your life.

Start off small, and when your boredom catches up to you, embark on something a bit more challenging, a bit more exciting. If, like your resolutions, you start to pull back from an activity, just leave it for a while and try something completely different. That way, when you return to it, you’ll have a fresh perspective and it might be more doable. The bucket list concept is something that doesn’t just apply to these holidays. It’ll be a constant source of entertainment for you so try to maintain it.

I hope you find what you’re looking for,

Agony Aunt

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